Saturday, October 09, 2010

Grrrr!

Guess its been awhile since I posted hasn't it? Soccer has been kind of intense this season. Since Sports guy is in high school now, they cannot play on a club team during the high school season. Less games you say? NOOOOO! Same amt of games in aLOT smaller amt of time. That adds up to two games every weekend AND out of town tournaments...AND practice 3 nights a week. (oh..and did I mention he is working out with the high school soccer and baseball teams too?)

Ok, how do YOU deal with clueless tactless people? I tend to be exasperated...and try to be nice, but I'm getting crabbier as I age. I was at a new quilt shop, showing off a couple quilts I wanted to teach. I have met the new owner when she worked at another area shop, so we are not totally new to each other. BUT, I'm still wanting to make a good impression. A lady from my quild chapter, who I know, but am SURE she has NO CLUE what my name is, over heard me tell the owner the pattern name of one of the quilts. (we were moving them off the cutting table and heading for the classroom/office to spread out). 'Oh, I have been having trouble with my 'fillin the blank name of pattern'.' She took ONE look at mine as as she turned around to leave left this parting remark "OH, that is not nearly as cute as the one in the pattern"
...............................................................................................................................................................................(this is me being speechless!) I TOTALLY get that we all have our own sense of what we like...what we don't like...and what we get immersed in what WE think is important, but COME ON! Luckily for me , the sweet shop owner said something like, 'well I think its cute'...and we went on from there...I normally would just wave something like that off. However, this certain lady, has done this numerous times to me... and as I would suspect to others.


Then this morning, I ran into the grocery store for bread. My husband likes cappucinos occasionally, so I thought I would order it, then go get the bread. By the time I paid for the bread, the coffee would be ready to go. BAD IDEA. There was a lady standing by the cash register. She had obviously paid for her drink and instead of moving down to the end, where they put the drinks, she was still by the case register. Fine..no problem. She sees me..and moves down the way. I move up to the register, but not all the way with my tummy on the counter. She is pawing thru a barrel of sale priced coffee mugs...brings 2 to the counter and pushes in front of me. Never asking my permission..she asks the barista 'can I pay for this?' then she goes back and forth asking the barista her opinion on which mug she likes better. After 2 are rung up...she changes her mind...TWICE..and they have to wait for a manager for an override. I walked off...got the bread...waited in a 6 person line...and when I got back, she was JUST leaving Starbucks. I did get my sweet husband his cappucion, but I was MAJORLY irked.

I think the think that gets me the most is that I have been in both of those situations before. I would NEVER push in front of someone. I have found things I wanted at Starbucks, after paying for my coffee..and I get in the BACK of the line..even if the line is just ONE PERSON! And about quilts...I would be mortified if I had worked hard on a quilt only to overhear someone cut it to smithereens at a quilt show. It may not be my color choices...or style..or what EVER, but I still try to find something to praise. You just never know who is near you when you spout your opinion. I try to keep the rest to myself...or take a picture and talk about it with a friend..LATER..in PRIVATE. That thoughtless woman could have cost me the chance to teach at that shop at all.


I think I feel better now. I think maybe the 'Mom's Night Out' with the soccer moms last night helped...a bit of wine..some food...and who knew the coach's wife was such a Kareoke Queen!? She knew all the words to Rappers Delight! Thats alot of words!

6 comments:

QuiltingFitzy said...

I watched so many sports games I have the bleacher butt to prove it! Oldest dd went on to play for Wisconsin. All 3 dd played varsity, but remembering back is bittersweet. We had such fun travelling to games, extra kids, hotels, pranks, etc.

Sorry, this other quilter is majorly jealous. Just understand it's HER problem, not yours, and frankly, "Her Momma didn't teach her to be nice!" Take it with a grain of salt. You wouldn't be a "teacher" if you weren't any good!

b davis said...

Oh I would be irked, too. It is sad that people act that way. The sad thing is that you know that they know better than to act that way. AND why they do, I'll never know. Just count yourself blessed that you are classier than that. And like I learned as a kid -- just take the high road.

You're a great quilter, and I love seeing all the fun things you make!

Chocolate Cat said...

Grrr.... I would be majorly annoyed and upset too but like you I would stand back and not say anything (of course when I got home I would think of the perfect things I could of said!!). Glad a night of wine, food, laughs and kareoke helped!!!

Angie said...

My two cents worth, too :D Don't sweat the small stuff, girly, and a lot of PEOPLE are SMALL stuff. You do beautiful work. My Mom always told me to turn the other cheek...yeah, well, sometimes I get tired of that one, and like you the older I get the more irritated I become with inconsiderate, ignorant people---and on occasion, well, I just allow myself to let them know it. :) Me thinks another night or two to coddle and pamper yourself is in order. Too much male testosterone and not enough 'me' time. I've missed you.

Alycia said...

I am so with your on the HS sports thing. I am becoming one with the bleachers. If only I could count that as exercise!!

Keep your cool, stare em down and smile. *grin*

scraphappy said...

Sounds like soccer is keeping you running. Glad you found some time to get out and about though.